There is one part in this movie that makes me cringe every time I watch it. J.uno meets the adoptive parents for the first time and is talking about getting fat and putting elastic bands in her jeans. The adoptive mother says, "I think pregnancy is beautiful." J.uno says, "Well, you're lucky it's not you." You can see in Jen.nifer Gar.ner's face how hard it is for the adoptive mother to hear this. But she doesn't say anything. I know why...because she hears this kind of shit all the time.
You're so lucky you can go to the movie's without finding a sitter.
You're so lucky you can travel.
You're so lucky to have disposable income you don't have to spend on kids.
You're so lucky you don't have pregnancy gas.
You're so lucky you get to sleep through the night.
You're so lucky, you're so lucky, you're so lucky...
I don't feel lucky.
I don't think it would be more possible for me to feel less f*cking lucky. Most people who say this don't know about my struggles with infertility. Some do know about my struggles, but I can also tell that they know they have just put their foot in their mouth big time. (I forgive them because I am the queen of putting my foot in my mouth.)
I know that this is one of those things in life that just isn't fair. Like you can make fun of someone for being too skinny, but not for being too fat. You can make fun of someone for being too rich, but not too poor. But sometimes (fair or not) I want to tell the fertiles how lucky they are...
You're so lucky that you don't have to spend tens of thousands of dollars just to try and have a kid.
You're so lucky that you get to tuck a child into bed every night.
You're so lucky that pregnancy is a happy time for you and not a time of waiting for the other shoe to fall.
You're so lucky that all of your babies were born alive and healthy.
You're so lucky.
But I guess we can't say that. It's just not socially acceptable.