Tuesday, April 21, 2009

I Would Make A Great Mom

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I have a few things going against me in the self esteem department.

First, I grew up in a small town in Iowa. I am the daughter of blue collar parents who were children of farmers. This doesn't give me low self esteem, but rather prevents me from having high self esteem. The worst thing your can do in my family is be a braggart. For a few years after I graduated from high school, before my under insured father passed away unexpectedly, my parents enjoyed some financial success. My mother wanted to buy a Cadillac, a used Cadillac. My father refused, "We aren't Cadillac people. What would the neighbors think."

"You aren't any better than anyone else." "What do you think you are, special?" This is the way I was parented. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with the way I was parented, but it stands in contrast to the feel-good-about-yourself-and-collect-your-participation-trophy parenting techniques of today.

Second, I am a middle child. I am not the oldest, who's every developmental milestone was celebrated in awe. I am not the youngest, who's moments were cherished because they would be the last, the last first steps, the last graduation, the last one to believe in Santa Claus. I'm in the middle; second, not first, old news, but not last news.

But despite all of this, I do suffer from high self esteem from time to time. I believe I am average to slightly above average at most things that I try to do, which is a blessing and a curse. There are no big failures, but also no greatness. Of course there are some things I would like to do and have failed, miserably. I cannot sing. I cannot run. I cannot reproduce.

But I would make a great mom. Sometimes I can't help thinking that the universe is missing out by denying me the chance to be a mom. I recycle. I like to read out loud. I'm organized and I would make a great den mother. I have loads of markers and crayons and colored pencils. I love to go to parks and museums. I know how to make fish sticks and tator tots.

What would make you a great mom?

13 comments:

UnicornMommy said...

It amazes me the unfairness of life.

that there are so many woman out there that are horrible parents and should never have the ability to reproduced.

Then there are woman out that who would be amazingly awesome mothers but get one heartache after another handed to them on a shit platter.

Doesn't make sense.

Frau said...

I'm convinced that what we get has more to do with chance than anything we do. (I'm both a control freak and a pessimist.) I try not to complain too much about the times when I don't get what I worked for. But then again, I'm pretty gleeful about the times when I get what I didn't work for. Your parents would be appalled at that attitude. My parents sure were.

Katie said...

I'm a kindergarten teacher- I have a license to be able to spend lots of time with children from birth to sixth grade. THAT'S what would make me a great mom.

(thanks for asking)

And I think you will make a fantastic mom too!

Misty said...

I knew for sure that you'd be a great mom when I read about your fish stick and tater tot skills. Those were staples in my childhood, who am I kidding they still are.

Lorza said...

I am right there with you girlfriend. I think that our generation is SO different than the ones now. We worked for what we got, hard work. Everyone in the t=ball game didn't get a trophy- only the ones who one.

Everyone doesn't get a medal in the olympics do they? Everyone doesn't get the promotions do they? NOPE!
I think you will be great mom. I can't wait for your time to come.

Bluebird said...

I love this post :) I had a different upbringing, but can relate to being average to slightly above average in most things. . . while that's nice and all, it certainly doesn't make one stand out! As for the rest of it . . . yeah, I think I'd make a good mom. I love learning and can't imagine the joy of seeing every day through the eyes of a child experiencing something for the first time. I know you'd make a great mom as well :)

IVF 40+ said...

I think we all have one thing in common- we all want to be moms and that is what would make us all great moms.
Our journey is harder than the 'oops we're pregnant' brigade. It makes us much more thankful, patient and loving on the other side. I know it sounds elitist, which it is, but I believe it. We have to walk through fire to become a mom.
EB

mekate said...

I think the best we can do with our childhoods is honor what worked, acknowledge the rest and do the best we can with the lives we build outside of that--

And you- truly- will be a Great mom.
warmly, Kate

Word Nerd said...

I agree with AVF 40+. I think the fact that we've been dreaming, obsessing, hoping for so long will make us all better mothers when out times come.

And I make good cookies. That's got to count for something, right?

Good luck on your upcoming cycle!
~C
ICLW

humbird97 said...

I love being outside, and I would show my babies the beautiful world complete. We would learn the birds, and their calls, the trees and their leaves, the flowers and their phylums. Yes, my dears would be nerds just like me. But nerds are cool (and sometimes, HOT).

Homework would be finished, clothes neat and in order for in the morning. One day, I'll be in the carpool line....

Just Caz said...

Praying that you will get the chance to be an amazing mom.

I think the best thing that I mother can give, is unconditonal love.

Infertility is Hard said...

Small town in Iowa? I'm from a small town in MN. I guess we are neighbors. :-D

I'd make a great Mom too, if only the powers that be would allow it to happen. I can make spaghetti-o-s and meaballs with the best of them! ;-)

Monica LeMoine said...

I TOTALLY know what you mean, dude. And yes, I'm excited to have your fine piece of hunk ass for our hunk ass gallery.

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