Tuesday, March 31, 2009

An Infertility Carol

I wanted to wait to have children. My reasons were that I wasn't ready for children for career reasons and I wanted to have some time alone with my husband before the craziness of children ruled our lives. Also, financially we were not ready for a long time as my husband was in grad school and not working full time.

I still wasn't really "ready" when we started trying, but I figured I would get ready in the few months it would take us to get pregnant. I never thought we would face these infertility issues. I was young (we started trying when I was twenty-nine.) I had regular periods. My husband was older, but who cares about the man's age right?

Sometimes I wish I could go back and warn myself what I was in for...

[Disclaimer: Babies shown.]

17 comments:

Betty Rubble said...

True!

UnicornMommy said...

The video was awesome. Loved the tennis pro.

We were engaged when we were surprised by Bug. I had been on BCP. Not sure if I forgot one or what. Or if I am just that .0001 %. But it didnt matter. We were excited. Way sooner then we planned, but excited.

then when we got BFP in 06 I had just started on a new brand of BCP because I was on the patch and my dad saw a 20/20 show or something and was really concerned about possible side effects of the patch. (saw it in the summer when I was reaching for a glass in the cupboard and my shirt went up a little) Since I dont usually talk BC with my dad for him to comment on it, I told him I would switch. Pregnancy #2. We lost the pregnancy a few weeks later.

Hubby wasnt too concerned b/c he wanted to wait until we were a little more stable in jobs and in a new home. we had just moved and were in an apartment. I was devastated.

3rd BFP we were trying for only three months. Lost very soon after. One day I tested + the next thing I knew I was m/c.

I know all about waiting for the right time and then finding out that your body isnt like any other. Nature has it's own agenda. We waited almost five years to have a second. Now it feels like it will never happen again.

We know now how fortunate and bless that we have Bug. He is truly a miracle. MTHFR and half a uterus. Preterm labor. breeched. It was all so difficult.

I hope you are blessed with your very own Bug.

Jennifer said...

The video is super cute.

After we had my son we waited to have another baby. We had no clue what was in store for us. 3 miscarriages later and diagnosed with PCOS, MTHFR and Endometriosis I can understand were you are coming from. I thank God for my son every time I look at him :) I am sending Baby Dust your way :)

kirke said...

I love your videos. I really think they are the best....

Jo said...

Great video. I thought I was being "irresponsible" went I went off the pill 7 years ago. I was living my hubby, but we weren't yet married. . .but I figured I wanted kids while I was young, so what the hell.

Ah, the innocence of youth!

Kat470 said...

Wow. . . That was me, exactly. If only we knew then what we know now.

Chelle said...

YES! I love the video. I wish we would have known...

Lorza said...

Love the video!! You are so creative!!

Baby Steps said...

I love your videos. And I'm yet another who feels the exact same way.

womb for improvement said...

I'm going to be singing that all day now. Ace vid.

humbird97 said...

We waited since my hubby was in dental school and residency - a total of 7 years 'wasted'. Then it was on to trying in Oct. of 2006. We had our first miscarriage then. The rest is history.... sometimes I really struggle with regret.

I can't let it consume me. It hurts, but it is what it is. I have to believe we can make it through this. The cysts this cycle have me doubting.....

I'm 34 now and my life doesn't look anything like I thought it would. But maybe it can still look good, just not yet.

strongblonde said...

so true.

xoxo

S said...

I'd go back to my 16 year old self and warn myself not to go on the pill. I mean, there was really no need after all.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

'Murgdan' said...

I hear ya. Hmmmph.

Erica said...

I particularly liked the revolving door montage. Clever and so appropriate. Each trip ending with a BFN - so true! For now anyway. We've got to start getting some better news in this blogosphere! I can't hardly take it anymore.

Leslie Laine said...

You rock.

"Or What?" is not an option.

This video, as always, is brilliant. I always laugh and cry through the whole thing.

You just rock.

katery said...

it's a raw deal. i too waited until i was as ready as possible to have kids, i wanted to find someone who i actually liked to have kids with. turns out maybe that wasn't such a super idea, apparently endometriosis does not give a crap if you are ready or not. anyways, if you miss snow you are welcome to trade with me ANYTIME, i'm ready to never see snow again as long as i live, and i'm a skier/snowboarder!

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