We're broke.
OK, we're not totally broke. We still have jobs. We still pay the bills. After spending tens of thousands of dollars on infertility tests, treatments, and prescriptions over the past two years we have very little savings left.
Yes, we are on an extended (maybe forever) break from treatments. Yes, even if we had the money we would not be in treatment right now, but quite frankly even if we wanted to cycle we couldn't afford it. The well is dry. The money tree has been shoke (shooken? shaked?) to within an inch of its life.
BUT...despite our dire financial situation, we want to live. We want to do some of the things that we have been putting off. We want to travel. We want to buy stuff. We want to have fun.
BUT...I still have a nagging thought, a little voice telling me that if this desire to have a child is still with me in a year then I may want to have the option to try donor eggs. That option requires some major savings and I just don't feel like it right now.
So right now I'm spending. I'm buying new toys. And I'll worry about saving for tomorrow later.
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lol. i just got the same EXACT camera for B for his birthday last week. Yesterday he was charging the battery and so excited to try it out! we took a million pics today (most crap), but it was fun just the same. i LOVE the continuous option!
i'm with you. let's worry about savings tomorrow. at least we could take a picture of our empty wallet! :)
This is so funny! I've been dying for one of those! I have been looking for photography classes to take at the community college! We are going to try for an IUI next cycle which is exspensive, DH &I keep joking if I get pregnant for free this month I will go get a DSR camera, and new furniture AND new surround sound...dang is IF exspensive or WHAT!
Good for you doing things that make you happy! I miss those things! :)
You were supposed to be frivolous with money when you were busy saving for treatments. Now's your chance - you can save money again later, once you have satisfied a little bit of your desire for stuff and experiences.
{HUGS} IF is such a drain in every way. I say- HAVE FUN!!!! You have to do things you enjoy as a way of keeping your sanity. I consider it therapy. :)
PS I am liking waiting for baby's phrase"get pregnant free". LOL That is serious looking on the brightside. :)
I've so been wanting a toy like that. I keep telling myself its actually a "necessity."
Love the toy! Enjoy it!
Enjoy your time...the savings will come when needed. But...if you are willing to entertain donor eggs...what about donor embryos? Actually much less expensive than donor eggs and even traditional IVF...but then baby not genetically linked to either of you...but still your baby in every way. Something to think about. Because even after having a baby....my desire for the 2nd never left me even though I knew we couldn't afford anymore IVF and my eggs were just too old by then (42). We chose to go adopted embryo. I tell you...it feels no different than with our biological child. Food for thought. Enjoy your new toy...I LOVE photography!
kd
I'm glad you treated yourself to something major. Savings is a legitimate concern, but sometimes you have to just live in the moment. With IF, I find myself constantly questioning my past and wondering about the future, so I am all for living in the now. The other posters are right - the savings will come.
I TOTALLY get this post! I mean, personally, I think those of us who get through five freakin' failed IVFs deserve a few 'treats' in life, no?
I need a new camera desperately...so I'll have to check yours out.
Hang in there, as useless as those words are...
A question: You might have addressed this early in your blog, but, I'm curious to know if you had an expectation of what these procedures would cost? Did the IVF clinic explain about success rates per cycle? Just curious.
* hugs *
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