tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post2432485811379125807..comments2023-11-03T06:53:28.451-05:00Comments on Bottoms Off And On The Table: No Expectations.Meganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15844319222032025685noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-63683758352692997892009-08-28T19:00:50.614-05:002009-08-28T19:00:50.614-05:00I can totally relate! IF feels like the first thi...I can totally relate! IF feels like the first thing that I can just "work harder" and ace. <br /><br />I looked ahead...so glad to see that you "aced" your baseline!! :-)Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17203780431443748216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-40067580690096502642009-08-28T00:15:07.464-05:002009-08-28T00:15:07.464-05:00I hear you! All my past successes and "gold ...I hear you! All my past successes and "gold stars" don't seem to matter in this IF journey. Sometimes I feel like I had it too easy with certain things in life and now the powers that be are testing me. The feelings of failure are tough, but hope trumps all. Good luck with this cycle!Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319942068629779927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-22426578589901039992009-08-27T20:13:59.801-05:002009-08-27T20:13:59.801-05:00Wow - I can relate to you, as well. What is reall...Wow - I can relate to you, as well. What is really interesting to see is how many others of us feel the same way. I wonder if there's a reason for this. Maybe you hit the nail on the head when you referenced people who have had everything come pretty easily in life somehow "need" this struggle of infertility to make us better mothers. I, too, have wondered about this, but have also adopted the attitude (as best as I can) that "it is what it is." I do feel in the bottom of my heart that we will all be mothers one day - we just have to give up some of our control and let nature do her thing. Great post!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02704553750771943587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-56119547054758846842009-08-27T17:28:50.885-05:002009-08-27T17:28:50.885-05:00I, too am a goal-oriented, high-achiever who rode ...I, too am a goal-oriented, high-achiever who rode the roller-coaster of treatments for infertility. It is this experience that taught me to find comfort in knowing I was doing everything in my control. Then, to let go a little and realize some of it is out of my hands. Good luck on your journey.<br /><br />-Lisa Lipkind Leibow<br />www.LLLeibow.comLisa L. Leibowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374055072034064692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-70522415225146121602009-08-27T11:02:44.761-05:002009-08-27T11:02:44.761-05:00Dropping by to wish you luck tomorrow at the basel...Dropping by to wish you luck tomorrow at the baseline...Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10653747745881776897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-3034599166373524252009-08-27T08:32:59.283-05:002009-08-27T08:32:59.283-05:00I love this, and totally agree. Since when did do...I love this, and totally agree. Since when did doing your best not work?!? Hang in there! ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-17674659570716946792009-08-26T21:31:19.541-05:002009-08-26T21:31:19.541-05:00I am right there with you. "Stretch goals&qu...I am right there with you. "Stretch goals" - good Lawd...sometimes I just want to smack people when I hear that word.<br /><br />Only goal for this cycle is a BFP! No goals about numbers!!!<br /><br />Hoping for the very best!<br /><br />xoxoTarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14683127027917195775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-16496126580846702292009-08-26T21:02:50.617-05:002009-08-26T21:02:50.617-05:00I am the worlds worst at waiting. I sometimes wond...I am the worlds worst at waiting. I sometimes wonder if this is a sick joke in the universe..you know that saying "Pray for Patience and God will give you trials and tribulations to help you develop patience."<br /><br />or however it goes. ugh.ME!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04165329812645814943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-19689733610161454502009-08-26T20:17:48.805-05:002009-08-26T20:17:48.805-05:00Wow, there are a lot of us! Your comment pool is f...Wow, there are a lot of us! Your comment pool is full of people who feel a lot like you. <br /><br />I use to be a terrible test taker because I got so nervous I would freak myself out. One day, I just said "F this!" and promptly went out and kicked that test's butt! So maybe letting go of my fear and worry is what I need to do for IF. Hmm. <br /><br />:Djenicinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361606793108116475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-64948213229333710012009-08-26T18:53:58.210-05:002009-08-26T18:53:58.210-05:00Oh, do I agree with this one. Academics and infer...Oh, do I agree with this one. Academics and infertility do not mix. I have finally gotten to the point that hard work does not pay off.gwinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840990153103781272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-23187261643713671802009-08-26T18:52:53.872-05:002009-08-26T18:52:53.872-05:00I don't neccesarily test well, but I have alwa...I don't neccesarily test well, but I have always been one that believed that if you really worked hard, I mean REALLY, really worked hard, you'd get what you wanted. And this whole infertile thing is really a slap in the face where that is concerned.Paula Kellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11545620300368378897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-54301984805791309612009-08-26T18:29:32.863-05:002009-08-26T18:29:32.863-05:00I am right there with you. I set goals, I reach t...I am right there with you. I set goals, I reach them. period. AND, I'm impatient. So, infertility and I do not get along either. Good luck to you on your next cycle.Kara's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318794767415969151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-81406368841469370802009-08-26T17:51:03.361-05:002009-08-26T17:51:03.361-05:00It's ridiculously hard to let go when you'...It's ridiculously hard to let go when you've lived your whole life doing everything well. I had it all planned out and then IF blind-sided me and it's something that I can't control... I love the comment about the passive people relax enough to get pregnant. LOL!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03777400850337711004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-88521702222547513772009-08-26T17:48:55.204-05:002009-08-26T17:48:55.204-05:00I identify completely. Out of the 6 months I did ...I identify completely. Out of the 6 months I did IUIs, I had ONE cyst, but I wasn't expecting it at all and burst into tears, to the complete consternation of the doctor and nurse. I also test well, and find i can never keep my expectations under control.sunflowerchildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15209334933886664383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-24824798747446525892009-08-26T17:36:47.399-05:002009-08-26T17:36:47.399-05:00My husband and OBGYN had an "intervention&quo...My husband and OBGYN had an "intervention" with me that went along the lines you just made for yourself. i.e. Kate you're used to achieving the goals you set, you're used to doing great on tests. This is just not like that. It's HARD to let go of how we are used to operating the rest of our lives in this one area where we crave control the most.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-21440691520488592382009-08-26T17:15:51.543-05:002009-08-26T17:15:51.543-05:00Maybe the non-control freak / perfectionists can r...Maybe the non-control freak / perfectionists can relax enough to get pregnant!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15844319222032025685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-28006371020226723442009-08-26T17:08:50.983-05:002009-08-26T17:08:50.983-05:00ah, my bad infertile soul sister... dh tells me th...ah, my bad infertile soul sister... dh tells me the exact same thing! <br /><br />i'm right there with you in having learned enough... :)<br /><br />good luck friday!Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01662110583122161668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-13514133673526032292009-08-26T17:06:46.023-05:002009-08-26T17:06:46.023-05:00I agree with M. The ratio of perfectionist-contro...I agree with M. The ratio of perfectionist-control-freak infertiles to easy-going-passive infertiles must be at least 200:1.<br /><br />Wuzzupwitdat?<br /><br />Good luck on Friday!Meg.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00362604475161394470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-50121745516970513652009-08-26T16:44:15.822-05:002009-08-26T16:44:15.822-05:00We sound a lot alike :) I remember the first time...We sound a lot alike :) I remember the first time a dr. told me that medicine is a science, not an art. (In other words, he had no freaking clue what to do, but we were just going to keep trying things until something did.) I'm pretty sure I snorted in his face ;)Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-75863378316279950792009-08-26T16:42:33.544-05:002009-08-26T16:42:33.544-05:00wow - you just described me! I admire your zen ...wow - you just described me! I admire your zen 'tude with this round. its true - IF is little known eastern training technique. <br />good luck fridayEbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674801997007886433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-69651283765441989342009-08-26T16:40:08.048-05:002009-08-26T16:40:08.048-05:00seriously, what is up with IF striking only perfec...seriously, what is up with IF striking only perfectionists and type-a control freaks?? it's like a form of torture.... to have absolutely no ability to control this process, but be unable to let go! here's hoping for a good u/s =)Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05466722859869773647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-52390250262281366722009-08-26T16:34:27.404-05:002009-08-26T16:34:27.404-05:00I can totally relate to this post. Your random fa...I can totally relate to this post. Your random fact #1 is true of me, too, and both my husband and I are accustomed to setting goals and achieving them through hard work and persistence.<br /><br />Besides the "not knowing" (we are unexplained), one of the hardest things about infertility for us has been having a "goal" that can't necessarily be achieved by doing everything "right."<br /><br />I will be hoping for good follicles for you at baseline u/s.<br /><br />P.S. I love your drawings!Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-88483899571734670572009-08-26T16:27:19.585-05:002009-08-26T16:27:19.585-05:00I SO know what you mean. Right here with you. And ...I SO know what you mean. Right here with you. And man do I have a test I'm hoping to ace coming up soon...I've been studying for two years. ;-)<br /><br />Am a perfectionist.'Murgdan'https://www.blogger.com/profile/00740095971968567222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-8447080178632114422009-08-26T16:16:59.184-05:002009-08-26T16:16:59.184-05:00Yeah, we are in the same boat. Over-achievers are...Yeah, we are in the same boat. Over-achievers are the WORST-wired for infertility. There's just no amount of hard work, brilliance, or clever problem-solving that can fix this. The only hope is that our REs are also over-achievers, and make our successful end results the litmus for their job well done.JBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17493045268452808663noreply@blogger.com