tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post1535937005759685748..comments2023-11-03T06:53:28.451-05:00Comments on Bottoms Off And On The Table: Two Cards in my PurseMeganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15844319222032025685noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-90191318182843669382010-07-30T00:10:34.446-05:002010-07-30T00:10:34.446-05:00wonderful....wonderful....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-55588568822988606072010-07-07T14:06:37.318-05:002010-07-07T14:06:37.318-05:00I remember being very upset and angry one Mother&#...I remember being very upset and angry one Mother's Day and my own mother saying that I should allow women who had children their dues. My reaction was that they already had the best reward and present they could get - their children - and what was there for people like me who had no children? There wasn't really an answer for that. I wish there was some kind of recognition for those men and women who have struggled long and hard to be parents but aren't.Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15524066274559867949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-10947369556543899242010-07-01T20:06:03.797-05:002010-07-01T20:06:03.797-05:00i've been thinking a lot about this post. i w...i've been thinking a lot about this post. i wasn't sure how to comment specifically....but wanted to give you a big hug!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-71453994014176620462010-06-22T11:10:22.159-05:002010-06-22T11:10:22.159-05:00I loved this post even though it made me cry a bit...I loved this post even though it made me cry a bit. It's just so honest and open. I love my dog and think of him as my baby..not human baby obviously, but my baby. But, he doesn't replace that need I have for a baby. Mother's Day and Father's Day are tough days for those of us without kids. ((HUGS))Mrs. Chapman's 2nd Grade Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885141816751077141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-25129142908540275212010-06-22T06:18:05.077-05:002010-06-22T06:18:05.077-05:00I love this post because it's so honest and re...I love this post because it's so honest and reflective of our own lives with our dogs. We were watching CBS Sunday Morning when a commentator said "What's an adult without a kid?". I looked at dh and said "Well, that's great. He just confirmed that our lives suck because we aren't parents."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-52248893726938736652010-06-22T06:17:42.164-05:002010-06-22T06:17:42.164-05:00I love this post because it's so honest and re...I love this post because it's so honest and reflective of our own lives with our dogs. We were watching CBS Sunday Morning when a commentator said "What's an adult without a kid?". I looked at dh and said "Well, that's great. He just confirmed that our lives suck because we aren't parents."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-33681793986779835192010-06-21T09:51:50.543-05:002010-06-21T09:51:50.543-05:00i was just flipping through random blogs and i stu...i was just flipping through random blogs and i stumbled across yours. very touching story, definitely tugs on the heart. i wish you so much luck in the future! I hope your husband comes back around :) and nothing wrong with dog mommies! I'm a guinea pig mommy!AshNoteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11417382047840477234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-47537263558118586922010-06-20T22:27:48.869-05:002010-06-20T22:27:48.869-05:00Being a fabulous couple with an adorable dog is st...Being a fabulous couple with an adorable dog is still pretty cool, he'll come around it's good not to rush him--I know when I try to rush my DH I get nowhere! Hugs to you these fake holidays suck almost as much as the real one!nurslouisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749921400852799303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-21574108973628324592010-06-18T22:52:41.742-05:002010-06-18T22:52:41.742-05:00I really like LastChance's idea of saving the ...I really like LastChance's idea of saving the card for a better day. Nice. And almost a promise of a better future to come.<br /><br />MoMohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01671855540466269330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-45078791954645377722010-06-18T20:55:29.612-05:002010-06-18T20:55:29.612-05:00I was surprised at how well I handled Mothers Day ...I was surprised at how well I handled Mothers Day this year, but apparently it has caught up to me and Fathers Day has become something of a struggle. I wrote a post about discovering "to my husband on Fathers Day" cards at target. I actually bought one and panicked for a while wondering what in the heck I was thinking. (Why would he want a card like that? Would it hurt him? and so on) I finally decided that I am going to give it to him. It is what I need, and I think that it is important to recognize the pain that he must feel in all of this too. I love him no matter what. and that is what i want the card to say. <br /><br />I am sure that you will figure out what is right for you and your family. and I hope that you are able to honor your instincts to honor him.foxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05482866425915180237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-35665453295433660972010-06-18T17:36:57.640-05:002010-06-18T17:36:57.640-05:00I take the piss out of the dog treat thing but I d...I take the piss out of the dog treat thing but I do get it really. (Almost).<br />xxLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336643483655255680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-70927046456741826442010-06-18T13:11:13.326-05:002010-06-18T13:11:13.326-05:00I saved all the cards I received during our IVFs. ...I saved all the cards I received during our IVFs. We also save all our anniversary and birthday cards because we make them for each other and they're usually pretty hilarious. So maybe save the first one--one day it won't be quite so painful but maybe will be a nice reminder of two people who loved each other so so much they were willing to go through a helluva lot to make a baby together. <br /><br />We're ignoring Father's Day too--even though we're pursuing other parenting options as my DH always says, "there are no children in this house yet" so we're still just a loving couple with a couple of fabulous dogs :)<br />Oh yeah, and one less-than-fabulous cat.<br /><br />Thinking of you.lastchanceivfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14139576318784337837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-10484905977437304002010-06-18T13:03:08.400-05:002010-06-18T13:03:08.400-05:00I get wanting to do something for F Day (and wanti...I get wanting to do something for F Day (and wanting to get your messaging out there) but it sounds like he does have the idea. So, your thinking sounds sensible to me. Sigh. It makes me feel better AND worse that my DH takes this hard, too (though not quite as hard as I do).the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-51769765134591852732010-06-18T10:46:51.365-05:002010-06-18T10:46:51.365-05:00These two back to back holidays are crappy. Whate...These two back to back holidays are crappy. Whatever you decide to do I am sure that it will be the best thing. Sometimes just letting it pass without any formal "to-do" is good for me.<br />www.infertilityinstability.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-25081018791460439472010-06-18T09:11:49.387-05:002010-06-18T09:11:49.387-05:00We'll probably end up ignoring father's da...We'll probably end up ignoring father's day this year too.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18312554628022949248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-22261061634161719512010-06-18T09:05:09.402-05:002010-06-18T09:05:09.402-05:00Megan, This is a lovely, sad post. All of your tho...Megan, This is a lovely, sad post. All of your thoughts on the matter make sense and it sounds like you are being a very sensitive (not passive aggressive!) wife during some difficult days. Despite our lovely boxer Moxie, we willfully ignore mother's day and father's day for ourselves, instead pretending that it only exists to honor OUR parents. I tend to bow out of all the group mother's day activities because I just can't stand them. You're right that it's a double edged sword to be included in these things.<br /><br />Maybe celebrate Bo's presence with you another day? With a non-father's/mother's day card?<br /><br />Thinking of you.Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01671855540466269330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-58532269135675693362010-06-18T08:57:11.890-05:002010-06-18T08:57:11.890-05:00I give my dh a card on Father's Day & he g...I give my dh a card on Father's Day & he gets to pick the day's activities. My dad is a two-hour plane ride away & his is not big on Hallmark holidays, so we usually just give him a card & visit around that time & he's happy. Thank goodness. <br /><br />I have a hatbox where I keep the (not many) mementos from my pregnancy & its aftermath, including our Father's & Mother's Day cards to each othher. Just a suggestion. But you keep that card in your purse for as long as you want to!! : )loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-89599232087505967982010-06-18T08:51:28.748-05:002010-06-18T08:51:28.748-05:00I think you should give him the card with a beauti...I think you should give him the card with a beautiful breakfast of French Toast and Bacon from the dog. That's what I am doing. At the end of the day, he is the pup's pappa and giving him a day of treats may help him feel less sad.DMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06544531255762632894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-41240467420164216552010-06-18T08:50:22.334-05:002010-06-18T08:50:22.334-05:00Totally...my husband is a typical man who doesn...Totally...my husband is a typical man who doesn't share his feelings...sometimes I forget they are there.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15844319222032025685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-84578605590585398562010-06-18T08:49:07.657-05:002010-06-18T08:49:07.657-05:00You're a loving couple with a fabulous dog who...You're a loving couple with a fabulous dog who are both affected by the struggle to become parents. It always makes me feel less alone when my husband admits to some hurt regarding our lost pregnancies. I don't know if you're the same, but I tend to forget that he shares my disappointments as well as my joys.areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.com