tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post4221912381525338765..comments2023-11-03T06:53:28.451-05:00Comments on Bottoms Off And On The Table: A Whole New WorldMeganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15844319222032025685noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-62608242680025039702009-05-28T20:36:09.668-05:002009-05-28T20:36:09.668-05:00It's amazing how much I can relate to your posts. ...It's amazing how much I can relate to your posts. <br /><br />It was a hard realization to admit that I was just as much, maybe more, of the problem. <br /><br />I still struggle with what to do next. It's all so draining.<br /><br />That whole thing my RE says about getting pregnant being in inefficient process though... there is definitely some truth in it. I've read blogs where women have gone through just as much crap and have had a happy ending. And I've read some that changed their course too. If only we could read the future.<br /><br />I'll be thinking of you and hoping your monitoring appointment goes well.Paula Kellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11545620300368378897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-43456198482007837292009-05-26T00:34:36.940-05:002009-05-26T00:34:36.940-05:00Hi Megan,
Thanks for the nice comments and words ...Hi Megan,<br /><br />Thanks for the nice comments and words of encouragement you have left for me. Truly appreciate it.<br /><br />Sorry to read that you are currently having a difficult time. I understand how you feel. We are also diagnose with Male Factor Infertility but somehow, I just have this nagging feeling at the back of my mind that I could have contributed to out IF. <br /><br />Please take care and continue to hold out positive vibes. Let's hope that the eggs will continue to grow and grow and grow.<br /><br />I am crossing my fingers for you to have a better appointment tomorrow.babydust81https://www.blogger.com/profile/17787107326347292586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-39318551126388687112009-05-25T23:55:51.909-05:002009-05-25T23:55:51.909-05:00I am praying for you. Lots and lots of luck to you...I am praying for you. Lots and lots of luck to you tomorrow.Tigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07998507834757510238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-16004247215536452952009-05-25T21:28:05.866-05:002009-05-25T21:28:05.866-05:00A total ditto: I always thought I was fertile, w...A total ditto: I always thought I was fertile, would have no problem, then met DH and I was given the all clear and he wasn't so I thought, hey IVF here we come. Well, after number 2 ended in a mess I realized that all clear' meant all clear for a 40 yr old. <br />It sucks, I hate it and I hear ya. Whatever you decide to do it here's to hope.Ebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674801997007886433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-27487646395406473162009-05-25T20:42:57.408-05:002009-05-25T20:42:57.408-05:00Lots of luck tomorrow...sending positive vibes you...Lots of luck tomorrow...sending positive vibes your way.Sky's The Infinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04721199881515207219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-58677348683893594162009-05-25T20:27:18.936-05:002009-05-25T20:27:18.936-05:00Hoping for good news at your appointment tomorrow....Hoping for good news at your appointment tomorrow. Hang in there.Once Upon A Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08865931408744885743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-50832587896867023452009-05-25T20:09:06.626-05:002009-05-25T20:09:06.626-05:00Good luck at your monitoring appt tomorrow. Hopin...Good luck at your monitoring appt tomorrow. Hoping it goes really well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-67757082624918751952009-05-25T18:18:49.349-05:002009-05-25T18:18:49.349-05:00Good luck with your appointment. Even though at m...Good luck with your appointment. Even though at my age (25), I'm not supposed to have problems, I too have been asking myself those same questions after years of just assuming our infertility was really just my husband's problem that IVF would cure. When your great (but very honest) RE tells you the reason he thinks your embryos are crap is poor/immature eggs, it's kind of a wake up call. It makes me wonder if IVF will ever work, if I even want to do it again if this cycle doesn't work, etc. Here's hoping your cycle turns out great!Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15808854523304595685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-33563754539449815392009-05-25T13:31:45.833-05:002009-05-25T13:31:45.833-05:00Ah, I can see where that is a different perspectiv...Ah, I can see where that is a different perspective indeed. And it sucks and I'm so sorry for you.<br /><br />Not the same thing, but I remember when I was dx'ed with all the clotting disorders that "they" say lead to my early-onset HELLP and losing our babies. I expected to be so, so thrilled to finally have some answers, expecially after years of "unexplained" IF. Nope. IT. SUCKED. Because now it was all on *me.* I much perfered being "unexplained" - that way I didn't have to "own" it. <br /><br />((Hugs)) honey. And have you found anyone to work on those glasses? Love it :)Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-63964085593375017592009-05-25T13:18:13.059-05:002009-05-25T13:18:13.059-05:00How did you manage to write exactly how I feel too...How did you manage to write exactly how I feel too? I'm on stim day 3 and and terrified that nothing is working, we'll get canceled, we'll retrieve no good eggs, etc. But then...I can't give up hope. Not yet. I have to try. Good luck on getting that AFC up, grow grow grow.IF Optimist, then...https://www.blogger.com/profile/11634482448223302535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-92154667179957000862009-05-25T12:44:59.726-05:002009-05-25T12:44:59.726-05:00I am so sorry you have to go through this. IF jus...I am so sorry you have to go through this. IF just gets worse and worse. It's an evil little biatch. But I hope you punch her in the face with a great monitoring appointment tomorrow.sattohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01628653675232618585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-82871336091212240382009-05-25T12:24:52.325-05:002009-05-25T12:24:52.325-05:00Facing infertility at the beginning is always sort...Facing infertility at the beginning is always sort of: "Really? Really? What do we need to get past this? REALLY? We need IVF? We need IVF? Oh please don't let us need IVF."<br /><br />There is a completely new layer when you realize that IVF isn't going to do squat. Suddenly that position where using IVF to get pregnant seems so nice and easy. <br /><br />I always thought the infertility diagnosis was hard. I didn't realize what the new layers were going to do to me.Frauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09214380775773932745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-6105166430696912612009-05-25T12:05:34.331-05:002009-05-25T12:05:34.331-05:00I know how you feel. I had accepted our MF diagnos...I know how you feel. I had accepted our MF diagnosis and my RE said that was the "main" cause of our problems. But this last transfer the embryologist said it was probably my PCOS eggs that caused our low fertilization. Damn. I hope you get better news tomorrow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-5837190535013522732009-05-25T11:27:09.440-05:002009-05-25T11:27:09.440-05:00Sounds like your docs gave you every reason to be ...Sounds like your docs gave you every reason to be confused about what was going on. I'm sorry it hit you all at once. I think you might ultimately feel better looking at the whole (not always pretty) IF picture, rather than just what they're suggesting you do next - even if it's hard, I feel like trying to face whatever's out there lets me take back my life a little bit from the IF funhouse, you know?the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-78264156344181692622009-05-25T11:03:38.175-05:002009-05-25T11:03:38.175-05:00Everyone has days when they hit a brick wall. Are ...Everyone has days when they hit a brick wall. Are convinced it won't happen and become afraid. <br /><br />I'm not going to tell you it'll be alright because I have absolutely no idea. But I do know that you'll have good days and bad days. Days when you have no hope, and then it will creep back in. <br /><br />You'll have better days, and I hope they come along soon. Take care.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336643483655255680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-81349224945642801122009-05-25T11:03:25.207-05:002009-05-25T11:03:25.207-05:00Oh honey...I so hope there will be no tears tomorr...Oh honey...I so hope there will be no tears tomorrow. You are in my thoughts...I think I've cried enough for both of us in the last week.'Murgdan'https://www.blogger.com/profile/00740095971968567222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-84503315007071986042009-05-25T10:44:40.577-05:002009-05-25T10:44:40.577-05:00Megan, my heart aches for you.
I too thought that...Megan, my heart aches for you.<br /><br />I too thought that DH sperm was the problem, but a couple of ectopics, a blighted ovum, and this last m/c at 11-weeks leads me to believe that perhaps the problem lies with me too!<br /><br />Actually, accepting that I might be a contributing factor to our on-going battle with sub-fertility lessons some of the guilt that I have had about SECRETLY harboring anger towards my husband. See, most people think I'm a "saint" for not leaving the marriage early on when we were given the offical diagnosis of male-factor infertility. The truth is, I'm just too politically correct (and I do take my marriage vows seriously...obviously I got stuck with the "for worse part" with regard to child-bearing)to leave my husband. I mean...who does that? Actually, a lot of women.<br /><br />So, as the other poster said so eloquently, self-reflection/daignosis does allow you to regroup and formulate a new game plan.<br /><br />Wishing you an appt. w/o tears!<br />ValerieValeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17633704862629969672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-80322208268414234682009-05-25T09:50:38.441-05:002009-05-25T09:50:38.441-05:00The infertility landscape is one of constant chang...The infertility landscape is one of constant change...which really stinks.<br /><br />I hope that all goes well for you. Hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-13956001671289355552009-05-25T09:09:15.109-05:002009-05-25T09:09:15.109-05:00Oh Megan, I know exactly how you feel. I knew we ...Oh Megan, I know exactly how you feel. I knew we had male factor problems, but somehow, it took me almost a year of miscarriages to fully wrap my head around the fact that my eggs were too damned old, as well. <br /><br />I mean, my mom was almost 60 before she hit menopause! I'm healthy, always have been! I look and act young for my age! Doesn't that count for anything?!?<br /><br />Apparently not. IF keeps coming back to "Damn, that's some crappy luck you've got going there." <br /><br />But, at the same time, once I fully accepted that my eggs were the culprits in our <I>post</I> egg-meets-sperm issues, it got much easier to look at other options objectively. Self-knowledge is a good thing, even if it hurts like mad at first. Hang in there. It gets easier, and you do have options, even if this is the first time you're really taking a hard look at some of them. <br /><br />You're in my thoughts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881629173943208551.post-44270366721592460252009-05-25T09:01:53.744-05:002009-05-25T09:01:53.744-05:00I am so sorry that you both have problems. I thin...I am so sorry that you both have problems. I think I am the only one with IF problems but DH is yet to have his SA. I guess what I am trying to say is that we never quite know what problems we will come across. Do not give up, there are still options, even if it means moving to plan B, or C, or D! Really hope it all works out for you.Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16275332224849930573noreply@blogger.com